Preferential Treatment

Hello loves! So something happened to me the other day while I was out shopping that upset me, and I wanted to kind of rant/write to talk to you about it. The other day I was out running one errands, going to the hardware store. I didn’t look my best, but I also didn’t look awful. I was wearing a crewneck and nike shorts with a little bit of makeup, so still presentable. I saw that a local boutique, in which I’d shop before, was having a sale so I decided to stop in and have a look. I walked into the store to absolutely no greeting from any of the 6 workers in the small shop, or question as to what I was looking for or if I needed any help. A woman at least 20 years older than me walked in a few moments later and 3 of the girls working immediately went to aid her in her shopping. I looked at some of the full priced fall items and didn’t see anything I liked so I moved to the sale section. Still no one approached me, if anything they dodged me. I found a dress in the sale I liked and wanted to try it on. I walked over to the area of the dressing room, and stood there waiting to be served. 4 of the girls were talking at the check out counter that was about 10 feet from where I was standing and continued to talk until I walked up to the counter, and still continued to jabber until I said “excuse me, I’d like to try this on” to which one of them stopped their conversation to say, “go right ahead, the dressing room is over there.” At this point I was extremely upset by the way I was being treated. I knew it was a higher end boutique, because I’d purchased a few special occasion dresses before from there, but that didn’t mean they could treat me differently. I had enough money from working this summer to buy a multitude of things from their store if I had wanted to. I tried on the dress, decided I didn’t like it and left. None of the workers reached out to me before I left or on my way out.

The reason I’m telling you this story is not to sulk in the fact that I was treated badly, but honestly as a note of encouragement and empowerment. I’m sure women, and men, sadly get treated like this all the time in stores they “don’t look like they belong in.” But that doesn’t mean you have to take it. You can do one of three things if you are ever treated poorly by the staff: The first response being, simply walk out. If they don’t have time for you, you don’t have to make time for them. They shouldn’t have your business, especially if it is a higher end store, if they don’t treat you with respect. The second response kind of goes off of that one in that after you leave, or after you’ve finished your shopping at that store, write this manager or store owner a letter about how you were treated and how rude their employees were. Hopefully a letter from a very dissatisfied customer will help them change their policy in the future. Lastly, one of the best in their face responses is to go in, find whatever you were specifically looking for on your own, and check out. If they ask if you received any help from anyone, be honest, tell them that no one helped you and you were a bit disappointed about that. Showing them that you are still in control of your purchases and your day is the ultimate wake up call for them.

I really just wanted to share this with you all to make sure that you are never treated the way I was in this particular instance, and that if you are you don’t succumb to anyone’s disrespectful behavior and get what you want out of the situation. Another quick tip, is if you expect this might happen in a store, bring a friend or family member along for moral support. You should never need moral support while simply out shopping for something, but sadly there are a handful of brands and shops that are still rude to cliental that doesn’t fit their perfect business mode. Be strong and be brave in your shopping endeavors, and have a fabulous day!


The Blonde Brunette


Weekend Sales: May 22nd, 2015

Hello loves! I’m so excited to share with you today’s post because the sales this weekend are absolutely amazing. Like I’ve already done some shopping and I’ll show you my favorite find below, so without further ado, here are some killer sales going on this weekend:

J.Crew: 30% off your purchase (including sale.)

J.Crew Factory: 50% off everything. So basically you definitely need to check out Factory sometime this weekend, they’re practically giving stuff away.

Banana Republic: 40% off everything, oh Banana you’ve done it again. (And we’re loving you for it.)

Gap: 40% off everything, which means it’s a good time to stock up on your well loved basics.

Victoria’s Secret: their sale bins of panties and bras are out this weekend, definitely take advantage of this! (Because we all know VS rarely has these kind of deals.)

Ann Taylor: 40% everything, which I totally took advantage of in theirjewelry  department. (They have the perfect necklaces for summer layering right now.)

Loft: 40% off everything, yes they mean everything. And I finally got this beautiful dress I have been coveting since it came out: (excuse the dressing room pic, there will be an outfit post coming soon.)

 I’m seriously obsessed, it has tassels and everything! Ah! So be good shoppers and take advantage of the awesome sales this weekend. Also take some time to spend with family an friends in remembrance of all those who have fought for our freedom. Have a fabulous weekend!

The Blonde Brunette

Wardrobe Update

Hello loves! To close out this week, I wanted to talk about how I go about updating my wardrobe to keep it fresh. I do a huge kind of wardrobe purge about 3X a year. So I wanted to go through with you what I do and some tips and tricks for the best way to go about this in a painless orderly fashion.

What you’ll need: a few hours of time, a good friend or two, large garbage bags, a notepad, and paper.

First go through all your clothes. I learned a trick from book, everything needs to be a perfect 10. This means that for each piece of clothing it needs to be a 10 on a scale of 1-10 for these qualities: 

Fit. Each piece of clothing needs to fit you to a T. Fit is so key in your overall appearance, it can add 10 pounds, or make you look like you’re in tip top shape. If something doesn’t fit properly, but you still want to keep it, take it to a tailor.

Wear and Tear. If any of your clothes have an obvious stain or tear, either throw it out or have it professionally fixed. Wearing clothes in obvious need of repair is never a good look.

How Often Do You Wear It. If you still have that sequin shirt hanging in your closet from 6 months ago and it still hasn’t been worn, it might be time to part ways. Things that never get worn take up too much space in your closet and make it much harder to get dressed in the morning.

Do You Feel Good. Does the piece of clothing in question make you feel good, or do you just feel ehh? Having clothes that make you feel your best is what fashion is all about. Obviously you still need basics like plain T-shirts, but they still need to flatter you and make you feel confident.

Going through this process is when having a friend around is super helpful. Having someone to be honest with you and tell you wether or not those jeans make your butt look good or not.

Once you’ve gone through all your clothes, separate them into a donate pile, a give to friends pile, and a send to the tailor or dry cleaner pile. Personally, I like to keep my donate and friends pile under my bed for about a month. This way if I’m getting dressed and I miss something in my wardrobe, it isn’t already gone. Then in a month, if I haven’t grabbed for anything, I donate and let my friends dig in.

When you’re putting all your old clothes back into your closet, this is also a great time to organize. I move my winter clothes to one side of my closet at this time of year too. I like to have all my clothes facing the same direction so it’s easier to flip through. I also like to categorize my tops by sleeve length so it’s easier to layer and dress for the weather. (Side note: Do NOT hang your sweaters. They stretch out really badly if you hang them.)

Now it’s time to assess the clothes you have left in your current wardrobe. Go through your Pintrest boards and your closet and figure out what things you want to add into your wardrobe. These can be basics or statement pieces or complete outfits you’ve seen and want to recreate. Make a list of the items you want to purchase, maybe on your phone to help guide you during your shopping. This way the next time you go shopping you aren’t aimlessly shopping or making lots of impulse purchases.

Hopefully you guys can use some of these tips to go through your own wardrobe sometime this year, even if it’s not right now. And maybe you can do it 4X a year instead of 3 like me, because I’m weird about it. Have a fabulous weekend!


The Blonde Brunette